Whatever the reasons were behind your break up, there is always hope that you can reunite. If you want your ex back then you will have some work ahead, it just doesn’t happen over night I’m afraid. You have probably heard lots of people discouraging you from even attempting to get your ex back. They likely have your best interests at heart and do not want to see you get hurt even more. But what if you do not want to move on? Some people know that their ex is the one for them and if this is the case you should fight for them, life is too short.

Where Do I Start?

First thing that you must do is give you and your ex some space. It may be some time since your break up, and this means that your approach will need to be somewhat different. Assuming that your break up was in the recent past, you will need to work out what went wrong in your relationship, the reasons why your ex broke up with you and a plan for your next moves.

You will want to look out for signs that your ex is still interested in you first, this will give you an inkling on what chance you have. Look at the signs below, these will be good indicators that your ex is missing you and wants you back too.

• Does your ex make excuses to contact you?
• Do they bump into you a lot?
• Are they trying hard to make themselves look busy or happy?
• Are they trying to make you jealous?
• Do they bring up the past?
• Do they get nervous in your company?
• Do they remember special dates like your birthday?
• Do they ask friends about you?

These are just some of the signs that you should be looking out for. Don’t worry if your ex is not outwardly showing these signs though, they could be very good at hiding their feelings and building up walls to protect themselves.

Creating A Need For You

Let’s face it, if you want your ex back you will have to make your ex need you, or at least feel like they do. This is a lot easier to do than you think. When you take yourself out of your ex’s life completely they will suddenly realise that you are not there for them anymore. Sometimes this created feelings of fear and vulnerability in your ex as they has not expected this. They just assumed that you would always be around in some way, even if it was just as a friend.

You will need to take this distance thing one step further to really intensify your ex’s feelings of fear and subtly pull them back towards you. We all know that it is very easy to stay in touch with people nowadays on facebook etc. In fact, we can keep an eye on what people are doing without even communicating with them. This is what your ex is relying on, the ability to check up on you online, so that they still feel a part of your life. This is why you need to stop posting or updating your facebook profile for a few weeks. You could also change your privacy settings so that your ex does not see your wall etc, better still, temporarily delete your profile until you get your emotions under control.

When they can’t see what you are doing, they will get desperate and want some contact with you, this is when they will end up texting or phoning you because the need will be too much. Watch out for when this happens as you are onto a winner here.

I hope that you have seen that the most effective strategies are simple ones, they do not involve a lot of work on your part, but rely on human psychology, turning the tables on your ex and making them do the running. When you are not around you will be viewed as scarce, and we all know that we value that which is scarce. You will also find that their feelings of attraction grow towards you in this period because you are creating an air of mystery about you, just like at the beginning of your relationship.

These are just two of the strategies that you should start with if you want to get ex back. There are many more tactics that you need to learn and are targeted towards specific situations. These techniques are based on human behaviour and understanding what goes on in the head of the opposite sex. When you get these two things right, you have a lot of power and will begin to see how easy it is to get your ex back.

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